The Betrayal Bond by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.

The Betrayal Bond

By Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.

  • Release Date: 2010-01-01
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
Score: 4.5
From 22 Ratings
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Exploitive relationships can create trauma bonds--chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. Divorce, employee relations, litigation of any type, incest and child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, hostage negotiations, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. All these relationships share one thing: they are situations of incredible intensity or importance where there is an exploitation of trust or power.

In The Betrayal Bond Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships.

This is a book you will turn to again and again for inspiration and insight, while professionals will find it an invaluable reference work.


  • Incredibly Healing

    By Annahgiel9260
    This book was truly healing for me. I urge each person to complete all of the exercises and to read the book *slowly*. After having two toxic relationships and experiencing trauma throughout life, this book was a game changer. The author is a great combination of empathetic and logical. I truly felt like the real life stories were relatable and dissecting what a trauma bond is and why they are so difficult to break was so helpful. Our brains literally have changes with these bonds and it is validating and freeing to see them objectively. I am so greatful for this book. Amazing read.
  • Life Changing book

    By Abahufeig
    If you ever met a person who simply does not keep his/her promises, this book will very likely answer why. It did for me. This book helped me more than religion did. Most importantly it helped me to have much better relationship with my family. You ave to g thru some "legitimate pain" to go thru ths book. But once you are done, life WILL be better. (no, I do not know the author, but I am eternally grateful to him for the knowledge I have gotten out of it).